2014-09-05 10:32 供稿单位: 新航道
Whichever way you decide to think about closeness and giving anotherbeing all your trust is a big part of your personality. Whether youdecide to give someone all your trust and hope they don’t turn theirback on you and betray you. Or maybe you feel that if they knownothing, they say nothing.
As Mohandas Gandhi says, maybe giving loyalty to a friend will leadus to bad things. The more a person knows you, the easier it is todeceive you. First of all, you already trust them and your heart willthink of any excuse to prove to yourself your friend is not an enemy.
Your friend may have an alternative side that you have no ideaabout. He/she could be feeding your secrets to the “enemy.” Anybody canbecome your friend, but maybe they became your friend to tell someoneelse what happened to you to your “old” best friend—all those thingsyou never wanted that person to know. Be careful of handing out yourtrust as if it were mere rocks; make the recipient earn it as if itwere gold.
As for George Orwell’s opinion that it is good to have loyalty,maybe this person will help you when you are having a hard time.Everyone loves to have a good friend—someone you can count on to laughwith, tell stories to, crack some jokes with. Not only is it nice tohave such a person, but it is healthy. When you have a bad day and needto let off a little steam, it is great to do that with this person. Ifyou allow too many things to build up inside and you are dying to tellsomeone it is not at all healthy. Maybe that includes being a bit of a“sin committer” as Orwell mentions, but these are friends that areinvaluable. They can listen to you and give support when you need it.Through their help, you can decide just how you will face the world.You just have to be smart enough to know not to be pressured into doingthings you should not do.