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Myth: The right marriage will provide endless happiness.
传说:正确的婚姻会带来无尽的幸福
Science says: The average person picks up a sizeable boost in happiness when he or she gets married, but this only lasts about two years. After that, the former newlywed reverts back to his or her happiness level before the engagement.
科学表明:一般人在结婚时的幸福感会爆棚,但这只会持续2年左右。只会,新婚夫妇的幸福水准就会将回到结婚之前的水平。
Boost your bliss: Delight in your partner’s good news. According to Lyubomirsky, “the closest, most intimate, and most trusting relationships appear to be distinguished not by how partners respond to each other’s disappointments, but how they react to the good news.” When your husband shares that he’s getting promoted, reacting with joy and asking enthusiastic questions signals that you care. Being silently supportive or pointing out downsides (“Oh, you’ll have to work on weekends?”) undermines happiness.
提升幸福度:为伴侣的感到高兴。Lyubomirsky说“最亲密最紧密和信任度的关系,不是靠伴侣间对对方失落时的回应体现出来的,而是他们对对方时的态度。” 如果你丈夫说他升职了,不妨表现出你的喜悦,多问一下热情的问题表现出你的关心吧。沉默的回应或是指出不好的那一面(啊,那你岂不是周末要加班)只会降低幸福感。