交际中的禁规

俗话说：交际是一门艺术！与人交往有很多种：包括生活中的为人处世，也包括工作中的相互交流。单单就工作中的一些交际规则，对于初来乍到的入世者来说，就会焦头烂额，防不胜防。

下面的文章主要介绍了关于现在职场交际过程中经常出现的一些让自己变的被动和尴尬的场景，希望大家了解到下面的而文章之后，在以后找工作或者是在工作环境中为人处世的过程中有所注意，让自己变得更加出色！　

1. Try to take before you give.

　　The goal of networking is to connect with people who can help you make a sale, get a referral, establish a contact, etc. When we network, we want something.

　　But at first, never ask for what you want. In fact you may never ask for what you want. Forget about what you can get and focus on what you can provide. Giving is the only way to establish a real connection and relationship. Focus solely on what you can get out of the connection and you will never make meaningful, mutually beneficial connections.

　　When you network, it’s all about them, not you.

2. Assume others should care about your needs.

　　Maybe you’re desperate. Maybe partnering with a major player in your industry could instantly transform red ink into black. No one cares. No one should care. Those are your problems and your needs.

　　Never expect others to respond to your needs. People may sympathize but helping you is not their responsibility. The only way to make connections is to care about the needs of others first. Ask how they’re doing. Ask what could help them.

　　Care about others first; then, and only then, will they truly care back.

3. Take the shotgun approach.

　 Some people network with anyone, tossing out business cards like confetti. Networking isn’t a numbers game. Find someone you can help, determine whether they might (someday) be able to help you, and then approach them on your own terms. （according to the conditions that you decide)

　　Always select the people you want to network with. And keep your list relatively small, because there is no way to build meaningful connections with dozens or hundreds of people.

4. Assume tools create connections.

　Twitter followers, Facebook friends, and LinkedIn connections are great—if you do something with those connections. In all likelihood your Twitter followers aren’t reading your tweets. Your Facebook friends rarely visit your page. Your LinkedIn connections aren’t checking your updates.

　　Tools provide a convenient way to establish connections, but to maintain those connections you still have to put in the work. Any tool that is easy or automated won’t establish the connections you really need.